From 100 guests to 340 guests to 200 guests. We just could not agree on how many guests to invite and who to leave out without offending some people.
But we have reached a compromise. We will indeed have 3 weddings. The only difference is that this time everyone is agreeable to it and is even happy with the arrangement. So here’s the plan.
Friday 17th October night:
Dinner in a Chinese restaurant. I know I said I didn’t want a Chinese restaurant for the wedding but at least it will be a high end, classy Chinese restaurant and not a ching-chong one. The food will be good. We won’t have to argue on who doesn’t get invited because the place will be able to accommodate a few hundred people. And the cost won’t be RM200 per person like a hotel where the place is high end but the food will not be up to par. We’re looking for a Chinese restaurant which is able to accommodate 300 plus guests. Right now, we’ve narrowed it down to Noble House and
Saturday 18th October morning:
The ‘chip san leong’ (picking up of the bride) will happen in the morning followed by the tea ceremony at my place. Then we’ll head to Paul’s family home before 11.30am (our auspicious hour of marriage which in the eyes of the Chinese is the ‘stepping into the house’ and tea ceremony) for the tea ceremony again. Then we’ll all have a light brunch.
Saturday 18th October afternoon:
Rest up & get ready for the evening.
Saturday 18th October evening:
Blessing ceremony and cocktails at the Garden Pavilion at Mont Kiara Damai Resort Condo. I didn’t realize how gorgeous and under utilized this area was. Its beautiful with plants surrounding a hall with high ceiling and chandeliers. With some flowers, candles and décor, this place can look totally magical. Close friends and immediate family will be invited to this cocktail.
About a month later:
The wedding dinner hosted by my dad in JB among his friends and those of my friends who’d want to travel there to have yet another wedding dinner. Oh and my friends from
In conclusion, while this isn’t exactly what I pictured my wedding would be like, it does make all parties fairly happy which is very important to me and seeing how we started off unable to agree on anything, the plan as it is, is almost like a dream come true. We’ve all compromised and we all got what is important to us.
Now I just need to finalize the guests list, the budget for each of the weddings and everyone involved to give their final okay. Once I’ve paid the deposits and secured the locations, I’ll be able to breathe a sigh of relief.
Then I’ll start on planning the food, alcohol, corkage, bride’s dress, groom’s suit, accessories, new shoes, photo, video, flowers, candles, décor, catering, cake, party favours, invitation card, seating, officiant, marriage license, band, DJ, sound system, friends’ performances, agenda, wedding planner, ang paus etc.